1) A 24 year old lady who has just discovered that she has to have a hysterectomy.
2) A 32 year old male who has just had to have his leg removed due to an unexpected car accident.
3) A 64 year old grandparent has been given the news that they are in the early stages of Alzheimer’s.
Now, when we hear about fine folks like this, automatically we give a look of sorrow and sympathy. After this, select few will register how this affects us when these human beings are close to us. Thoughts about the changes that have to be made, things that can or cannot be said, or just have coffee with neighbours and talk about them.
When folks like this are extremely close to us as parents, husbands, wives or children, a very select few will do the same thing, however will take it to another level. Bitterness and anger will set in about how lives had to change and the sacrifices that we had to make for others. Complaints about the life differences that had to be completed and direct this anger towards the person that started it until utter hate takes us over.
With this in mind, let us take a look at the fine folks that are going through these changes in life. This writer can only imagine what goes through their minds. Entire plans and goals have now changed for them. The way of life that was once laid out before them is now different and to not only add to the insecurities of every day living, the psychological effects of knowing their body and mind has changed.
Let us take a look at this for a moment:
The 24 year old lady, who may have planned on having children will not think that her body is unworthy for her potential partner or husband. The years of planning a family are now gone.
The 32 year old male has to re learn how to walk.
The 64 year old grand parent will have to have to accept help where they have spent all of their life giving and helping their children, only to know that in time that the grand parent may not even remember who their family is.
Now, I have only touched on the effects of what these great people may have to go through. Well that and the select few in their lives that blame them for it.